"Not having kids - selfish? I beg to disagree.
Selfish is having a kid and neglecting her/him. Selfish is having too many kids when you cannot give attention and/or financial support. Selfish is having a kid and not being able to be there for her/him emotionally because of your own problems.
Not bringing a kid into the world because you don’t want to create someone who’s unhappy in a disturbed world or because you feel you wouldn’t be able to give your best, is not selfish. It is noble.
Not having a kid, even if your own loneliness desires a baby-toy to play with or someone to control, and not giving in to your fears that your existence won’t be extended in a form of your children is being a modern Hero, and I bow to those people.”